if u dun even have the time, then dun even bother trying

this is dedicated to those couples who are going to get married and trying to conceive..

Before you do any of the two mentioned above please think a million times before you do..

this is what i can say from my experience..I am so sick of seeing people getting separated and in the end its the chid that suffers…

Think hard .

• is that the face u wanna see first thing in the morning for the rest of your life?
• are u sure u are going to be happy together?
• who is the person who always gives in you or him/her?
• are u sure u can live together in one house happliy along wif ur in laws or by yourselves.
• are u gonna have outside food everyday or home cooked food which the way to your hubby’s stomach
• are u gonna stay jealous all you life?
• are u financially challenged or grounded by any bond?

if you are thinking very hard for any of the questions then my suggestion to you is that u better give yaself more time..

i have seen many working parents who come home and “spend time” with their families..what happens to their school work..i feel that children really need that coaching in primary school. u cant expect a 7year old to do his homework all by himself. or remember to bring his B book that his tcr reminded him of just yesterday. Children can easy forget. They need re-enforcement.

DUn ask “then wat are the tcrs doing in sch?” a teacher’s job is within school compund. AFter the child leaves sch the responsibility is solely the parents’.

I have seen so many families breaking up after just 2 yrs..i reAaly feel terrible..where is the society leading to? and another thing. dun think u can just drop off after sec sch and go and work…i see so many single mothers who have not much education. to meet their financial demands they work like day in and out. at the end of they day the child loses out since he/she only gets to see the mother on weekends. mothers return like when the child sleeps and before the child even wakes up she is off to her morning shift leaving the child under the care of the grandparents?

Is this what parenthood is all about. To tell u the truth i am scared that i might be one of them. BVut at least i make it a point to finish whatever i can at work and come back home to Zahra..i make sure i get to sleep with her, read stories to her, bath her, change her nappy and every means to bond with her..

I bring her out despite my parents nagging..I am not a perfect example but what i am driving at is that we have to be responsible for our own actions. Dont involve the innocent ones. I see children so helpless becos their parents are separated. This is no regards to my working life and happeings but mainly outside my career life.

SO if u are a parent to be pls make sure u have the time for him / her. Be it your child or yor hubby.

Just a penny for my thoughts which have been probing me since 2004